Tips on how to prepare a child for kindergarten.
We begin to prepare in advance, as the psychologist in our garden said. I took this info from the site of our garden, I hope it will prove useful to someone.
RECOMMENDATIONS FOR ADAPTING TO THE CONDITIONS OF KINDERGARTEN.
… …it’s time to give the Child to kindergarten. What’s waiting for your baby outside the walls of kindergarten, whether it will quickly get used to, whether it will often get sick … Questions, doubts, experiences are natural for parents, because at 4-5 years kindergarten will be part of your life, it will largely depend on the development and health, and mental well-being of the child. Therefore, it is very important, whether your baby will be able to successfully adapt to kindergarten, and help him in this – the task is not only teachers. First of all, it is the care of mom and dad.
It is advisable to prepare for a change a few months in advance.
Especially shy, timid children join the kindergarten team. If your child shy away from strangers, at the playground is afraid to let you go, to approach other children, even the best teacher will not save him from misadaptation, because for such children stress from visiting kindergarten will be many times increased from time to time. Try to expand the circle of communication with the child – visit more often, discuss what they do and how they behave on the playground, encourage and support their initiative in communicating with others. Teach your child to communicate! If you come to the playground, show your child how to ask for a toy, suggest a change, invite another child to play or ask permission to play together.
Teach your child to get acquainted – first you will ask the children what their name is and introduce them to your shy little one, but sooner or later he will start to follow your example. Try to organize games for kids on walks – even if it’s just a normal ball game – the main thing is that the baby sees that playing with other kids can be very fun. Enroll in a children’s club or development centre if you have the opportunity. In our kindergarten there is a group of short-term stay. Such groups recruit children 2-3 years old, and they come there 2-3 times a week for 2-3 hours together with their mother. Ideal – if in such a group with the child will be engaged in a tutor, who will later lead the nursery group.
Get acquainted with the day regime of kindergarten, in which you plan to go, and gradually begin to accustom your child to it. This mode is approximately the same for all kindergartens and may differ by about half an hour. Usually at 8.30 a.m. children have breakfast in kindergartens, from 9 a.m. to 10 a.m. they have classes with them, then until about 11.30 a.m. children walk, about 12 a.m. lunch, at 12.30 a.m. to 13.00 a.m. – sleep until 3.00 p.m. to 3.30 p.m. After waking up the children have a snack, then they go out for a walk again (in warm season) or play in a group. Dinner starts at about 5 o’clock.
For a non-working mother, of course, it is quite difficult at home to organise exactly the same regime, but it will be really much easier for a trained child to get used to the garden. Especially hard to crumbs during sleep, if at home they were not put to sleep in the afternoon. Therefore, it is very important that from 13 to 15 baby got used to being in bed. If he cannot fall asleep, just teach him to lie down quietly. Most often in kindergartens teachers do not pay personal attention to “non-sleeping” children (ie, they are still forced to lie quietly). If your baby refuses to lie in bed, the time during which you have to take your baby to sleep, can be very long.
Teach your baby to play! Unfortunately, modern children are less and less able to do this natural activity for them. They do not know how to play on their own, to build a game plot, and all their play activity is reduced to simple manipulations with toys (knock, leave, break). A child who knows how to play a game is easier to join the team of kindergarten, to find friends. Involve your child in joint storyline and role-playing games (dolls, houses, hospital, etc.), they teach the child to communicate, develop emotions, introduce the world around them.
Play with your child in “kindergarten”, tell him about kindergarten. About the fact that if mom and dad work, they take their kids to kindergarten, where many other children, where there are interesting toys, fun activities. Tell us what children eat and sleep in kindergarten, where everyone has a crib, locker, towel. Let your toys become “kids” who were brought to kindergarten sight words, and your baby as a caring teacher will feed them lunch and put them to bed. If you talk about kindergarten regularly and play with it, it is more likely that the baby will be happy to go there, and of course he will already know what this place is and what they do.
Read and tell your child poems, fairy tales and teach them to listen carefully. Even if at first the baby will only be enough for a few minutes. Try to gradually increase the time of reading, developing the child’s arbitrary attention.
Play role-playing games – “jump like bunnies,” “fly like sparrows,” “walk like bears. The ability to repeat the actions of adults will be useful for the child in physical education, and in music lessons, during mobile games with a tutor.
Instruct the child to be independent in the field of hygiene and self-service. If at the time of admission to kindergarten your child will be able to put on sandals himself, sit on the pot, he will feel more confident in the group. If you know that soon the child will start attending kindergarten, take off his diaper (even if at first you have to carry a spare clothes and constantly wipe puddles). Teach your baby to the pot (toilet) – usually in the crèche is both. You need him to at least be calm about the planting.
Give the baby a spoon, show him how to use it properly. Explain that you cannot play at the table, eat while watching TV. What a sin to conceal – many moms are much easier to turn on the baby cartoons and while he opens his mouth, watching them, pour in the soup. But if the child gets used to eating like this, in kindergarten, he will walk constantly hungry. Of course, at first, the kindergarten teachers will feed him, but a lot of children, and breakfast, lunch and dinner time is limited to the regime.
Going for a walk, do not rush to dress the child – let him try to cope with himself, even if it takes longer. Calmly help your baby while dressing, explain how to properly wear sandals, pantyhose, T-shirt. Working in a nursery, I often see moms and dads, bringing children to kindergarten or taking them away, change their clothes, although their babies have long been able to do it themselves and for a walk dress up on their own.
Improve the health of the child. Many children (we can say the majority), who before going to kindergarten almost did not get sick, begin to get sick there often. The reason for this – and new viruses that the child faces when coming to kindergarten. Total number of viruses is more than 200, and if your child’s body has not yet faced with them – he is likely to get sick, but the severity of the disease will depend on the strength of his immunity – some children all spill out in a week of runny nose, and others – in otitis, bronchitis, pneumonia. Stress that a child experiences in the new conditions, itself also reduces the body’s defenses.
The easiest way to strengthen the immunity – is not to reduce it, trying to keep the child in greenhouse conditions. If you are too warm to dress the child even at home, give him only a warm drink, try to be with him less in public places that he is not sick, then in kindergarten you will get just the opposite effect. Dress your child always in the weather (if the street plus 18 º C, tights are no longer needed), go to visit, do not be afraid to give juice from the fridge. At home, your child can walk barefoot and in the same panties if the room temperature is around 20 degrees. Try to spend as much time outside as possible. If you are ready to pay systematic attention to temper the child – start gradually accustoming him to pours cold water, sight words for kindergarten.
If you did everything right, by the beginning of kindergarten, the baby will already know what kindergarten is, why he will go there. And although educators and say that for kindergarten child to be able to do nothing (all teach), still the child will be better if he is already able to use a spoon and a pot, take an active part in dressing, washing hands. Will be ready to communicate with peers (at least at the level: say hello, ask for a toy), will not be ashamed to seek help from a tutor and will be positive to visit the kindergarten.
In my opinion, it is better to bring a child to kindergarten in summer (end of July – August or at the very beginning of the school year), the worst – the end of autumn, winter, early spring – this period accounts for the highest incidence of influenza and ODS. Municipal kindergartens, like other educational institutions, provide classes from September to May, so it is desirable that before the beginning of the school year the child gets used to kindergarten, then he or she can actively participate in the classes with other children.
So, your child has started to go to kindergarten. The first days and even weeks are different for everyone. Someone literally from the first days is happy to go to the group, but still more often parting with his mother is accompanied by tears. It is true that in the group some children are quickly distracted and calm down, others cry all the time before the arrival of parents. Some of them are always looking for contact with the teacher, while others, on the contrary, are closing in themselves, refusing to communicate with both children and adults. And this is normal – after all, the usual home environment is changing into a noisy group, where in addition to a large number of children on the child immediately falls a lot of new rules and restrictions, and the baby can not understand why his mother brought him here and left. The behavior of children after kindergarten also changes – often parents complain that their baby became uncontrollable, falls asleep badly, often cries, became aggressive. It is natural in the period of adaptation, the child can not yet realize what happens to him, and thus reacts to experiences and nervous tension. Some children may even “regress” – they start to talk worse, urinate in their pants, demand to be fed and clothed again, even if they are already perfectly able to do it independently.
During this period, parents need to try to limit the load on the nervous system of the child – to minimize watching TV, avoid noisy activities, and, conversely, as much time as possible to spend with him in quiet games, reading books. Try to hug and kiss the baby more often – bodily contact with parents will help relieve psycho-emotional tension and calm down. In no case, do not scold him for the fact that he again “fell into childhood,” began to behave worse – treat it with understanding.
How long can the adaptation period last? It depends on the nature and temperament, and the health of the child. Children – introverts to get used to kindergarten more difficult than children-extroverts, children with poor health (even if they like it in kindergarten) are often ill, which also affects the duration of adaptation. It is believed that adaptation to kindergarten takes an average of 1-2 months, but in some children this period can last for six months or more.
What can be done to ease this difficult period?
The most important thing is your emotional state! Do you accept that your child will attend kindergarten. If you have a negative attitude towards kindergarten, feel guilty about bringing your child there and do not expect anything good from kindergarten, your child will certainly feel the same way. If you feel that the day care centre is a new stage in your child’s life, you are sure that your child will feel good about it – the same feelings will be transmitted to them.
Talk to the carer about your child in advance. Tell them about their habits, their behaviour, what they love (don’t like), what games (classes) they prefer, and the methods of education they have adopted in your family – all the things you think the carer should know. This information will be very helpful in working with your child and helping to find a personalised approach to your child.
Talk to the carer about the attendance schedule for the adaptation period. Usually it is planned strictly individually and depends on the characteristics of the child. Someone stays asleep for a week, and others only go crying until lunchtime for a month.
In any case, the first days of the child is brought to the kindergarten for 1.5-2 hours. If the tutor allows, you can sit with the baby in a group, so that a sharp break-up with his mother was not very stressful for him. As one of the options – the child is brought for an hour and a half for a walk, then he begins to stay in the group until lunch. Of course, ideally getting used to kindergarten should be gradual, and you should follow the wishes of the child: first, you spend six months in a short group with him, then about two weeks bring him for a walk, then another two weeks he comes in the morning for two hours. Then for 2-3 weeks the baby only stays until lunch, then for another week or two you pick him up right after sleep.
It should take about the same time to get used to afternoon and dinner. It is good if the child himself shows initiative to stay to eat (sleep, play) with the children, but in practice this mode of adaptation is very rarely satisfied with the parents, and after a week or two they ask to leave the child for a full day. But for the spiritual well-being of the baby with it is not worth rushing.
But some regime moments to delay it is not recommended. Do not arrange a long farewell to the group, it can lead to a real hysterics. Firmly and confidently tell your baby that now you will leave him and come for a walk (after lunch, sleep). And you’ll go right away. You can agree on a “farewell ritual”, for example, that you will surely wave at his window.
If the break-up with Mom is very difficult, let someone else try to take him to kindergarten (for example, Dad, Grandma).
Give the child with something that will remind him of his mum (a handkerchief, photo). You can give him a “key to the apartment”, without which you will not get home until you pick him up from kindergarten.
If your child has trouble sleeping, arrange with the tutor to let her take her favourite toy with her for sleeping.
Think out how to motivate your child to go to kindergarten, for example, in kindergarten he will need to be sure to say hello to the turtle, see how to feed the fish, or maybe in kindergarten will be very bored by his favorite car or doll?
At home, play “kindergarten”, let the toys take on the role of “kids” and “caretakers,” it will not only help you learn how your child perceives the new place, but also help him to respond to unpleasant emotions and tension.
Try not to take breaks during the adaptation period, with the exception of illness with fever. A runny nose is not an excuse for not going to day care.
Do not discuss in front of your child the moments that you are not satisfied with in kindergarten, do not say bad things about kindergarten teachers.
Tell your child how happy you are that he is already so big and independent, that goes to kindergarten. Tell your relatives and friends about it, and let him hear how proud you are of him!
The success of adaptation will be evidenced by the normalization of the emotional state of the baby, but this does not mean that he will be happy to run to kindergarten. The child has every right not to like to go to kindergarten, to be sad and cry when they part with you. However, a child who has adapted to kindergarten accepts the need to go to kindergarten.